On being Catholic

Oh, my little Grey’s…

To begin, I have to say that I really enjoyed the episode aside from the obvious, considering how pro-Catholic this website is.  But, more on that later.  Is it just me, or did every woman in America (except Emilie and Nikki) either say or think, “YES, PLEASE!” when McDreamy asked about some hot sex?  I know, and I just got through saying how Catholic we are, and here I am talking about lust.  I’m sorry, I have such a crush on Patrick Dempsey; I have for as long as I can remember.  But truly, I am an old married woman who loves her husband very, very much and is 100% devoted to him, so I’m totally kidding. 

I laughed out loud at the look on Derek’s face when he saw Meredith come down from McVet’s (or O’Dreamy’s, or whatever other names people have come up with for him) apartment fresh from a shower and wearing his shirt.  I’m glad that George went home; and the Burke and Cristina scene at the end–wow!  Chris O’Donnell is so adorable!  I feel like there are other things, but I’m too focused on the whole “large Catholic family with tired mom who wants her tubes tied and wants to hide it from her husband” storyline.  Can anyone say, “STUPID”?  Here’s why:

Any couple who is so devout that they would consciously be 100% open to life by having 7 flipping children and not contracepting all for the sake of their belief in God and the Church would/should have at least heard of Natural Family Planning, which would mean they wouldn’t stop having sex completely for 3 flipping years.  We are NFP class dropouts, and even we know that!  Yes, NFP calls for periods of abstinence, but certainly not 3 years!  Ridiculous!  And, if they were so desperate as to not want to have anymore kids that they stopped having sex for 3 years, don’t you think they would have sought other options and found NFP if it wasn’t already presented to them by their parish or diocese?  And, I know it’s the “cool” thing to do, so they acted as if contracepting is the only option and if you don’t contracept, well, you’re stupid and you’ll just have to keep on having babies or get yourself fixed and lie to your spouse.  From my undestanding, NFP, practiced correctly, is effective (I admit I don’t have the experience to back it up, but I have studied a great deal about it, and know a number of people who swear by it).

But of course, it has to be portrayed that women who don’t contracept must be popping out an ungodly number of children…And the husband, he must be horrible and controlling with no respect for his wife; Oh, wait!  He’s one of those crazy Catholics, that explains it.  I understand the argument that it’s a woman’s body, but when you enter the sacrament of marriage, you make a vow to become one with your husband, and he vows the same. Yes, we are told to be submissive to our husbands, and our husbands are supposed to love us in the way Christ loves his Church; which means he would die for you. You do this by CHOICE.  Any children or potential children are not exclusively the woman’s “property.”  They are as much a part of the husband as they are the wife because the husband and wife are ONE.

I could go on even more about why this is stupid, but I won’t.  I think it’s time to come down from my soapbox.  And, I still love Grey’s; they aren’t the only ones with stupid Catholic storylines.  It’s everywhere; I’d have to stop watching TV or reading the news or listening to the radio.  It’s just part of it, I guess.  God never told us that following Him would be easy; rather He told us just the opposite.

6 Responses to “On being Catholic”

  1. Aimee Says:

    I’ll bite even though you leave me hanging so many times. Taine and I were just discussing how my smut meter gets stronger and stronger the older I get. I actually changed the radio station the other day because a song was to graphic and dirty. Anyway, I know what you mean. So many shows have this little way of needling in odd reflections of Catholic behavior. Certainly there are bad Catholics, many mobsters and thugs are also churchgoers; that doesn’t make them authorities on what the Church teaches. Too often the media represents people’s mistaken beliefs as truth thus we get labeled indecisive freaks. Certainly some of our practices can seem confusing to non-believers, but what pisses me off are believers who call themselves Catholic but have no idea what they are talking about. There is a plethora of material on what the Church teaches. Here’s a thought, go out, get a copy of the Catechism to start with and educate yourself, then speak from knowledge not speculation. The truth is people don’t want to know because they mistakenly believe you are not held accountable for what you do not know. That is true to a degree, but you have to be unaware of the knowledge AND unable to aquire it. Laziness is not an excuse. Lastly, I hate how TV shows portray confession. It is not like you can hate someone, have them murdered, and just walk in say you’ve sinned and make it right. You actually have to be sorry (Weevil) you did it and be willing to do something about it. This is the only area Passions ever got right. Whitney went in to confess to having an abortion before she did it, and the priest explained to her that she didn’t understand the sacrament if that is what she was asking of him. Back to my original smut meter comment…I can’t even sit through What About Brian anymore because the thing is going off every 5 seconds. It is a shame because I really wanted to like that show, but I can’t deal with open marriages and Brian having 3 different sexual partners in the span of a one hour show. The male Felicity my ass!

    P.S. As for the lust you mentioned earlier, Derek was kind of pissing me off on Sunday (granted he is still hot), but I definitely felt some last night when Chris won Nashville Star. Sadly I looked in the mirror this morning and realized he is my Kenny Rogers!!! Ha!

    P.P.S. (This one is just for Weezie) Wait til you hear the dream I had about Bruce. AND I got the most beautiful picture of St. Therese; you are going to be so jealous!!!

  2. Aimee Says:

    I realize I am commenting on my own comment, but I have to say one more thing-ok two…

    First, I am so sick of everyone online saying Alex told the father. I don’t agree with what he did, but he didn’t tell the father. The MOM told the DAD about the alleged “complication”. All Alex did was suggest he get his 7 kids a college education granted he did it out of spite, but he didn’t let the cat out of the bag. What kind of moron goes to the trouble to save of money to have a procedure done under the table and then outs her doctor! She is to blame, not Alex. Again I realize he is a jerk, but he didn’t bring this on her, she did it all on her own.

    Second, I have no earthly idea how they are going to wrap up Veronica Mars in one episode and I am choosing to be in denial about waiting all summer for new episodes (renewal assumed). From what I read (episode descriptions not spoilers) we get graduation, the resolution to the bus crash, apparently something with Aaron (which after last night, I personally hope involves murder), something with Woody, theoretically something with Kendall and the Fitzpatricks (and possibly Weevil) and summer all the way to the beginning of college. Get out, all that in one hour? Also, Beaver is looking more and more guilty and I can’t take it. I just keep telling myself Logan looked guilty as hell last year and I never believed that either. I was sick all last summer from the cliffhanger and the speculation; I will have a nervous breakdown if this ends up on Cassidy.

  3. Weezie Says:

    What do you mean I leave you hanging so many times?

    My “smut meter” is going crazy too! I wondered if it was age or EWTN…LOL I deleted the 3 eps of Brian I had on my TIVO after you told me how bad it was–I had begun watching one ep and found the whole open marriage thing disturbing. I mean, it literally made me want to throw up.

    Don’t get me started on the folks who call themselves Catholic but don’t believe in the Real Presence or hate on the Magisterium. I’m with Fr. Dean on this one: you can sit in McDonald’s all day and call yourself a Big Mac, but you aren’t a Big Mac.

  4. Weezie Says:

    Oops! Now I have to comment twice b/c I posted my comment without responding to your second comment. We are SO blonde…tee hee Do you think I used the word “comment” enough in that first sentence? I never understand what people online are talking about when they comment on these shows. Were we watching the same television show? It’s questionable…

    I was wondering how there’s only one more episode left with all that floating around too. And, though I knew Aaron was going to get off, I still screamed at the television, “You have GOT to be kidding!” I’m not down with Beaver being guilty either…I can’t bear the thought! BTW, how sweet was Wallace last night? I love him to pieces! I don’t know why I’ve gone blank on all the things that made me laugh…I hate when I do that!

    I’m off to get a pedicure!

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